The wise thing is to get counsel. Preferably godly counsel. The problem with that is in discerning who is giving godly wisdom versus worldly wisdom. The journey of faith is a deeply personal one since God states very clearly that only He can judge correctly the heart of man. It is easy for people we love and trust to speak in love and worldly wisdom. It is up to us to discern what advice is for us and which was well intention-ed but not for us. AKA - Chew up the meat and spit out the bones...
We are embarking on a risky adventure of trusting God in a deeper way. I laugh even writing that because I know He is Sovereign and promises to walk with us. So really, where is the risk?
My husband has turned in his resignation to a job which has provided for over a decade for the needs and wants of our family. We will be letting go of good health insurance and a weekly salary paycheck. Gulp!* To many this will appear foolhardy and unwise. At times, even to us, this seems like a crazy idea. Being able to offer Christian Counseling and run the Lifeline Celebrate Recovery program without working a 40+ hour job has been something my husband and I have been working toward for years! It has been the dream placed into heart and soul. We want to walk a life of faith and this is our next step. It has come to a pinnacle... make a choice! We are strapped in and ready for the ride. We have felt the peace settle in our spirits that this is the right move. Our minds are still a war zone of what Ifs when we are not in prayer. Every time we lift up our choice to God He rewards us with excitement, reconfirmation, joy, hope and most importantly peace. We will not let the giant of doubt shake our inner peace. Doubts can rattle our minds, but we know we don't walk alone. God will bring his people who are hurting and we will journey with them to healing in Jesus name and we will watch in awe as God shows up and shows off!
We will gratefully accept all the prayers we can get. Pray our faith is strengthened each day and our doubts grow weaker. Pray most of all that Jesus is glorified by our lives. Thank you!
The time has finally come to slow down, turn inward, and find me again. But, as with everything, there is a pendulum swing and I can take it too far. I start focusing on what I want, need and am entitled to and end up being unhappy, whiny and no one I want to be around. Focusing on what I don't have instead of counting my blessings slowly turns me sour - every time! Instead of balancing life with God's perspective I swing from not caring for myself enough to demanding too much for myself. I am learning (oh so slowly) that I need the Spirit's help to stop the swing from going too far one way or the other on any given day in every area of life. Dynamic tension takes focus and intention!
It is a struggle to retain some healthy boundaries and a sense of identity in this rat race. Keeping who I am with God is vital, because when I start to let my kids, husband, role, passions or job define me I am in trouble. One-on-one my kids can be amazing or moody tyrants and together, mostly they are a cute and noisy circus. My husband is sweet and seemingly perfect one moment and the next I think about hopping on a plane and traveling the world solo. Being a wife can be absolutely maddening, but thank God for those sweet happily ever after moments that keep you hoping to grow old together. Motherhood is fulfilling sometimes and draining others. My passions can seem fulfilling but can place my priorities in jeopardy. One day work is fulfilling and the next I want to quit. My identity needs to be firmly in Christ so I quit returning to life in my own power. When will I learn that I need Him every hour - every moment to get the fullness that I am craving and the sustenance I need?!
Nothing and no one is important enough to allow crowding Him out!
Yes, He created me with strength and ability, but I have yet to learn which battle hill is worth dying on and which ones I should let Him conquer. Just because I can, doesn't mean I should! I am afraid I have been a poor example in strategic warfare to those around me. I have heard His voice in some matters and have been so blessed through obeying His call to drop certain balls so I can do what He is calling me to do better. I took my sweet time getting the message though, and it makes me wonder what I may have missed out on in my delay. I have battled so hard in one area and totally lost sight of others that were way more important! My days always have adequate time when He is in charge. On days I take control I scramble. He is sovereign and that I can rest in. My journey, though bumpy, will be a part of refining me through His grace and for His glory.
Why I am still amazed that on those days when I take my time to invite Him to lead, that things go not perfectly, but way more smoothly? I get, for those type A peeps like me, way more accomplished! My eyes are opened to those special God appointments with my kids, the neighbor or my spouse. How great to feel that high of being a part of God's work! Let's make that happen more! I get peace even in the busyness and confidence in the turbulence. I know it is because I was fortified against the devil and remembering to be in tune with the Spirit that I can do all things through Him. It is not more important to be right, fair, or honest than it is to love. And to love right, you need Him! Simple morning devotions are good by keeping me connected, but now I know there are ways to turn up the juice! So here are a few of my go to Jesus Strategies:
I need pandora blasting worship... like everyday!
I need daily devotions using You version... maybe more than one and with the word being heard!
I need to reach out and pray for my people... keeps me from being too inwardly focused.
I need to ask for honest insight to how I can grow... as iron sharpens iron
I need to speak aloud to my Jesus...yes, He is mine but I will share Him with you
I need childhood praise songs sung in the shower... nothing stirs my heart more - k.i.s.s.
I need to be humble, kneel and shut up so God can stir my heart... posture makes a difference
I need to slow down and trust more... He fights for me so I can just love!
Anyone one of these are great but when I regularly do them all I can understand why Peter got out of that boat. Want to feel the power? Share with me some ways you connect in with the source of all power!
All that other stuff has a season but it will fade and then what will I be left with?
I wish I could say I was one of those moms who prayed constantly for their children, or at least nightly. I like to think that I at least pray regularly. Sometimes I feel my prayers for them have become rote and repetitive. You have all kinds of plans and ideals with the first child, but somehow after the third things start to slip. After a long day, I'll admit, I tuck them into bed and then go fall in mine often without more than a "Night Lord."
Years ago I found a sheet listing ways to pray specifically for your children which even included scripture to back up each point. I have held onto this for years, but rarely got passed the first few sections. It was too wordy and it seemed I was always interupted. Good intentions are all well and good, but carrying around a nice but essentially a useless (for me) paper had to come to an end.
Above, I have recreated the heart of it in combined and shortened prayer topics. I have successfully been able to pray my way through this one - Yay! I am a busy mom so it probably will still not happen daily, but God know my heart and He will grow my prayer warrior skills yet. I have this on the front of my homeschooling binder in hopes of furthering my skills. I will also put the plain pdf below if it would be of use to anyone else.
There are days when I can't even have a sane thought. I seem to flit back and forth between sanity and insanity so many times a day that I get so tired of even trying to distinguish between the two. I have moments of clarity where life feels balanced and that I am managing all my responsibilities well and moments where I really just want to crawl under the covers and hide from all the things and people pulling at me.
In my saner moments I recognize that that the hormones and emotions that overwhelm me, that ruin my perspective and that are distorting everything are due to the increasing blueberry growing inside me. I should allow myself more grace and quit allowing emotions to dictate my actions. Somehow, I keep moving and get done what I need to get done. The constant emotional war for reality and the perspective of Christ to remain in control rather than emotion and frustration is wearing me down.
My devotion this morning was on the Sabbath and how it is one of the 10 commandments we break most often without blinking an eye. God made it a commandment because He knew we needed it! My mind of course says, duh, of course! But guilt, society and even my own inability to nap are at war with this concept of rest. It seems lazy and wrong even when I can consciously acknowledge that a nap would restore my energy, my joy, and proper perspective...I baulk at the idea, because I know my my mind. I have attempted naps, but my mind goes into immediate overdrive with lists upon lists of things I could/should be doing as soon as I lay down. These lists contain everything from housework, to work work, to ministry, web design, schooling my children, writing this.... you can name a few more to do's I'm sure.
So, what do I need? I need the biggest chill pill in history! I keep seeing how God is trying to remove thing from my plate and I gratefully pile it back up with different things....and pile it high! I listen to society and see what others are doing and my own lists aren't long enough. I feel unproductive, ungodly and guilty.... guilty of being lazy, of being a poor mom and a poor wife, daughter, niece, employee, person period. I'm sure there are a couple more blanks you can add to my list.
How do I take a Sabbath and make it Holy? I don't even know what that looks like! Satan is such a stealer of peace and joy. Even if you manage to find some peace and rest satan will give you a nice does of self-guilt to try and prevent you from enjoying it. This constant striving/perfectionism/ pride is going to be the death of me....if...I don't stop and cry for HELP!!!
...Jesus, please help me to grasp the concept of a Holy Sabbath! Help remove the guilt I have associated with rest and impress on me the need for your peace and rest regularly in my life. Let me seek after you more than I seek to complete my to do lists! Help keep your perspective in the forefront and not my emotions. I want to abide in your Spirit and know true relationship/unity with you! HELP ME PLEASE BECAUSE I CANNOT DO LIFE WITHOUT YOU!!
Our Core Team has graduated the Celebrate Recovery Step Study! We have launched and more and more people are coming each Friday night. We have different worship groups leading each week from many different churches! We are praying the Lord provides financially as we grow. Josh is seeing clients as well as working full time. We are praying for wisdom of when to take a step of faith and leave behind the lawn work. Praying for more clients, but already reaching that point of how to take on more in a healthy way when the spare time isn't spare. God is good and we are trusting Him to move us as He sees fit.
Lifeline Celebrate Recovery had a great first fundraiser and we were super pleased/relieved at the support that came in!
Had every hole at the tournament sponsored and had at least 50 golfers. We launched CR last Friday and had an incredible turnout.
We are feeling so amazed and blessed that God is providing all the needs and bringing people.
The phone is ringing, emails are coming in both from the hurting and for volunteers that want to get involved. Awesome!
We were able to sneak away for a short cruise thanks to finally refinancing our house at current market rates. Whoot! Josh and I had a swell-full time thanks to hurricane Isaac. Awesome to experience the power of the Atlantic. It was wonderful. We got to rest, have uninterrupted conversations, experience new places, and new food together, just the two of us. The Bahamas were beautiful even though we were rerouted due to the storm. I wish our excursions hadn't been canceled tho. :(
I got back from the cruise and had about a week before flying off to Texas with my cousin. We went to be trained for the new software system our company will be transferring to next month. It has been a lot of work and fine-tuning. The trip was successful though. Somehow our brains, despite the migraines, were able to retain all they taught us. We came back to share with the rest of the team. We are only a week or two away from the big transition. Things should settle down for me after that... I hope! ;)
Celebrate Recovery is going well. Our team is in our the third book and really growing in transparency and intimacy. We are all very excited about what God is going to be doing in the next few months. Our first Golf fundraiser is in November and we are praying that God goes before us. He will prepare the way. Josh finished his masters and has launched his counseling practice. Right now he has to fit in clients at night around the other job until we can transfer him full-time into the campus pastor position.
A lot is going on and we are so thankful. We are holding onto our hats cause it's a wild ride when the Spirit leads. :)
We are getting closer to the Launch of Celebrate Recovery and Josh has opened up the Counseling Service of Lifeline. We have been able to raise up a leader for the Lifecoast Nursery ministry so we can step out of direct leadership in that ministry. This will allow us to concentrate more fully on the Lifeline Celebrate Recovery Ministry and Josh's Counseling Practice. We have several fundraisers in the works and are praying for God's continued provision as we move forward.
I have been helping out a friend by watching her daughter a few days a week. She is a sweetie pie and it hasn't been that difficult for a few hours each day. It has actually been a lot of fun to have a playmate for Dassa-Beanie. Three kids aren't too difficult. No crazy ideas for an addition to our own though. Its been nice to make a little extra spending cash for helping out a friend.
Also, I might be flying out to Texas in the next couple months to learn a new software system for Trades of Hope. I am very excited about getting out of Florida for a few days. I love Florida but need a change, some adventure. It will be interesting to see how I do away from my family for that long tho.
We have our first official night of a CR step study tonight. I am very excited to begin my own personal journey through this Beatitude-based study. We are excited about the things God is bringing together to see the possible launch this Fall in Flagler County.
We got our confirmation email today! Yesterday we had our re-evaluation virtual interview. We have been accepted into the Launch Training program now that our vision for a Celebrate Recovery Campus is clear.
Conferences are lining up to prepare us for the next 6 months of intensive training. This has been a huge encouragement! A year ago we went to launch. We were approved but were waiting on God to clarify his vision so we could proceed.
It took some heart work, since starting a Celebrate Recovery is not an easy path. We are excited to see God placing things before us to reaffirm that this is indeed the path He has called us to.
The last year of team building opportunities through other ministry has been a challenge. The time has strengthened both of us to be more resilient. (Nursery Ministry & Counseling)
So we feel ready to say, BRING IT ON! :D
My Current Mantra
Walk humbly with God and do the work at your hands....