In most cases I think it is decided by physical factors. How tired you are... the last time you ate... how you recharge... just to name a few variables. But despite all the things that can drag you down it still remains a choice.
Personality is a big factor. Are you an extrovert and crave people to rejuvenate you, aka a piranha as you steal energy from others? only joking...partly. ;) Or are you an introvert and need time alone to recharge. Do you crave just 5 minutes to yourself and feel yourself flinching from too much social interaction? Can you tell which one I am?
No matter what season of life or situation you are in, you can change your inner outlook but changing your thought pattern. After all, even the crazy people can retreat into their own minds to a better place. So...
Capture those inner voices and make them work for you instead of against you!
"This person is really annoying and if he doesn't just shut up in a minute I am going to do something we are all going to regret!" can turn into - "He is probably over sharing because not too many things are going well in his life and he is hanging onto any trace of of hope he can find."
"These kids are driving me nuts and never pick up after themselves - I might as well be their slave!" can become - " I am so grateful my kids have so many toys and imaginations that keep them running all day long, but it is time to call them back to earth and ask for help picking up."
"My boss doesn't appreciate all I do, and this company would fall apart if it wasn't for me!" may be replaced with , for the sake of your job - "I am so thankful that I have a job I can really shine in and make a difference."
So to enjoy the insanity of life we need to learn to put a positive spin on things.
Here are some tangible ways to help -
Sometimes this is hard to do on your own, so find a friend or family member who can help you. When you start to "vent" they can help (with your permission so they don't get slapped) help you see another perspective.
When I can feel my day going down the tubes, I like to turn on some upbeat music and watch it magically put everyone in the vicinity into a better mood.
The big guy is pretty good at gut checking you and helping you see things in a new light as well. A quick prayer can set the day right too.
Yes, I have even plastered sticky notes or signs around my home with catchy positive sayings around my house to help lift my thought to a better place.
Schedule a Reminder:
With these hand dandy smart phones you can send yourself reminders throughout your day, week, month, year to uplift or remind you about your goals to see the cup half full instead of being a scrooge.
(Scrooge Reminders during the holidays maybe just what will save your holidays!)
You are not alone in your fight to see all of life's little moments in a truly appreciative light. I have three little blessings in my life that are growing me in new ways everyday. And I am thankful for the supporters in my life that keep me going or pick me up when I trip.
Special thanks to you...you know who you are!